Anyway, The Rasmus and The Classic Crime were like the soundtrack of my commutes to and from work (all, like, ten minutes, SO grown up right?) the summer after I graduated from high school. And I'm not sure I've listened to The Rasmus since then, which is ridiculous, because they're super good, even though their lead singer is WEIRD LOOKING.
It's the hair/feathers...
Anyway, I love them. And I'm so happy I have them back.
Why are Finnish bands so amazing? (Nightwish, anyone? Anette is a GODDESS.)
I am so impatient. I need to stop. It hasn't even been a week, and I am dying to address the second-date issue with the guy who took me to the Cocoa Bean. (I do NOT want to call him Cupcake Boy...) But, after polling the roommates and the visiting teachers, I have decided that I should definitely wait until after this weekend. Which is difficult for me. Call me unorthodox, or forward, or WHATEVER, but I'd rather just broach the subject, discuss it, and get it over with. Some people think the uncertainty is 'fun,' and sometimes I agree, but generally speaking, I can't handle it. I think I'd be a little more okay with this if I had gotten 'the vibe,' but I didn't get it, and I have to admit that that freaks me out a little bit. Or rather just makes me think that there is not likely to be a second date. But I find that so odd, because I feel like the date itself went super great. It was only until afterwards that I had any doubts of a second date. It's not like I was like, "oh my gosh, I'm gonna date this guy!" on the first date, but I had such a great time (and I had assumed from the park continuation that he was having a great time too) that I figured there would almost certainly be a second date. Ugh, I just don't know. I sit there and think about how I should've shut my mouth, and let him talk more, or whatever, and I hash and re-hash, and it's driving me crazy.
But honestly, I have a two-date policy. I feel like interest, or disinterest, cannot be established after a single date. People are generally on a little bit of their best behavior on a first date, and there's some uncertainty as to how the date will pan out. A more generic activity is usually chosen, so as to gauge adaptability, and also not to scare away either party. But unless things go completely TERRIBLY, and/or someone attempts to murder and/or rape their date, romantic interest cannot really be very well determined. (In my opinion.) If the first date goes extremely well, and you're fairly certain that you're going to end up dating this individual for an extended period of time, the second date generally serves to solidify this feeling. Or perhaps reveal that the first date was in fact a fluke, and all of the things you had in common on the first date are actually the ONLY things you have in common. If the first date goes decently well, the second date will either tell if there's more interest (if you continue to have a good time and/or great conversation) or if there isn't. If the first date goes... meh... but you have a good time on the second date, aren't you glad you didn't just give up? Or if you have a meh time on the second date, at least now you KNOW. Plus, I think it takes a good deal of courage to ask someone on a first date, and if you shut someone down after the first date, then they may lose their courage to ask on any first dates, because what's the point if that's all you're gonna get?
I obviously have super strong opinions on this.
Can you understand that dating drives me crazy? Especially at BYU?
On a side note, I pulled the prank. It resulted in my falling flat on my bum (REALLY HARD) while running to Kiwanis Park, and David (yeah, I pulled a prank on David, I couldn't resist, and I figured he'd be good-natured about it) and I having a smartphone lightsaber fight. (Smartphone is a word, but lightsaber gets underlined in red by spell check? Whaaaaaat?) He handled it pretty well, mostly because I'm fairly certain he mostly figured it out before. But yeah. He laughed.
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